Marry Me Monday: Wedding Hashtags

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As of lately, we’re in the dawn of the unplugged weddings due to so many guests in the way of your well paid photographer. However, it’s always fun to look back and see how other enjoyed and marked the celebration of your union. I clearly started thinking of my wedding hashtag early on. For one, it’s free! No deposit needed here.   So here’s a little how to on how to create a successful wedding hashtag.

Start with your names.

DUH! Create a list of first, last, nicknames, pet names etc. Use your nickname from college or that time you played varsity volleyball.  Anything that makes it easier for the guests to remember, which means more people will actually use it!

Here are ours:

Shannon
Dino
Shino
Fallon
Roberti

Use Numbers

Let’s be honest, there are about a billion Mike & Jennifer’s in the world, so f your names are common or you can’t come up with anything quirky, using the year or date of your wedding is an easy way to make it your own. Not necessarily my favorite as it looks like one of those robot generated emails . . . but it’s an option #MikeandJennifer2142017

#DinoandShannon2017 just doesn’t do it for me.

Pun Intended

Have fun with this, especially with a play on words. Look for alliterations, rhymes, synonyms and puns for a hashtag that’s both clever and memorable. If your wedding has a theme or a special location, you can easily incorporate it.

Seeing as our wedding is in Ireland we thought of a few:

#LuckOfTheRobertis
#DinoCaughtAFallonStar
#RobertisTieTheKnot
#DinoFoundHisPotOfGold
#ShannonsDinomite

Capitalize the first letter of each word.

Capitalizing the first letter of each word can help with readability if guests can see where each word starts and ends. Doing this will also make it more likely that everyone will get your joke or pun. With or without the capitalization, your hashtag will work the same either way.

Check the hashtag

Before you hit print on the invites, check and see if the hashtag to see if the hashtag has been used before. Hijacking someone else’s hashtag isn’t great, plus you don’t want to combine a slew of multiple weddings albums together. This can be an easy fix by adding in a number or word.

Let Everyone Know

After you’ve decided on a hashtag, it’s time to get the word out. Let your bridal party, family and friends know. Start with  putting it on your save-the-date and wedding website. At the wedding you should also have reminders. Use cute signs on the tables, or put in on the menus.

Don’t overthink it.

Have fun with your hashtag. It’s meant to give you an opportunity to see your wedding from your guests perspective. Encourage everyone to use the hashtag but don’t be a bitter when Aunt Jackie can’t figure it out.

 

After some thought. We decided on:

#TheLoveBertis

Cheesy, I know. . . But it was a perfect play on word with love birds and rhyming it with my now future last name Roberti.

 

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Home Project: DIY Chalk Board

Home Project: DIY Chalk Board

The projects never END in our house. No seriously, they never stop. Remember that post I had a few weeks back on this wicked awkward wall space we have.  Well we finally made up our minds and went with the chalkboard wall from Dwell Beautiful.

 

We taped and primed the wall.  Frog Tape is a must

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D measured out the frames for the wall and spaced them 2 inches from the edge to help give it that framed picture look.

chalkboard We used Rust-oleum Chalk Board paint from Home Depot
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D did 2 heavy coats of the Chalk Board paint. Our Nest thermostat makes it almost look like a door.

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Wait 3 days for the paint to settle and then  treat the chalk board with regular chalk.

diy CHALK BOARD

Here’s the finished project without the framing.

diy cHALK BOARD

D spray painted the wooden pieces in our garage and pieced them together to create the frame. We nailed the frame into the wall and viola!

Here’s the finished framed chalk board. You may notice a little distress in the framing. That’s due to me running over the frames in the garage with my car because I didn’t see that they were drying. Ops! Thanks to my momma for drawing a fun tree this weekend.

DIY CHALKBOARD

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Marry Me Monday: Combining Finances

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Combining Finances 

Going into marriage is scary as hell. Sharing and joining incomes is/can be scarier. Not to mention the direct correlation with divorce rates and finances being the number one reason why marriages take a dive for the worse.

Most couples DO NOT like discussing finances and dislike the idea idea of joining incomes even more.  D and I have already had these conversations and have merged our finances. No, we are not married yet, but we did buy a home together and the conversation needed to be had.

Communicate

The key in all of this is do what works for you. There is no right way or exact science to how to go about joining incomes, but the key to the equation is communication and honesty. Have a conversation.  Actually have lots of conversations! Figure out your individual hard expenses and then figure out your hard combined expenses, talk about savings accounts, IRA accounts and any additional assets that you both may have. Credit reports are key too, they will have effect your purchasing power.  My personal favorite, talk about DEBT! When you marry someone you marry their debt too. It’s good to know what you’re walking into and this also includes student debt. D and I were lucky that we both had no student loans and could start our combined incomes debt free.

 

Write that Shit Down

No matter how you decide to combine finances, write it down, chart it out and task out responsibilities! Yes, this may not be the most romantic thing in your relationship, but figure out who is in charge of what especially if you’re living together. Where is your money going and when is it going? These are important things to know! I personally use Mint for my money management and D is more of a paper and pen kind of guy. However, we’re constantly re-evaluating our expenses, monthly budgets and savings. It’s an always ongoing conversation and the chart is forever fluctuating.

Divide that Money, Honey

This part is tricky. Again, do what works for you. For some it’s splitting everything down the middle 50/50, for others they contribute a certain percentage of their income depending on if there is a large differences in incomes. One partner may make more then the other and has more money they can contribute.  D and I split all our hard costs down the middle, it works for us. However, when it comes to date nights and all the extras we take turns depending on who got paid that week.  (romantic, I know) But, we still treat each other to special dates and gifts throughout the year, I mean you still want to preserve the romance, right?

Pay Yo Bills

So the bills have got to get paid and this is where you can take two roads: pick and pay or jointly pay.  Some couples who may have different  income brackets may choose to take responsibility of paying out certain bills. Others pay all the bills from a joint checking account that they feed money into. D and I have a joint checking/ savings account. We both direct deposit a certain amount per check and use the account for all of our hard costs to basics such as groceries, gifts, vet bills ect. We also contribute to our emergency savings account. This works for us and helps us understand our spending month to month. D is the designated finance guy in our household. He’s the saver, I’m the spender so he takes the cake on the joint finances and making sure the bills are paid on time.

Keep Your Independence

Word to the wise, get a joint account and keep a personal account. Do not get me wrong, I strongly agree that if you are in a committed relationship you should not be keeping any financial secrets, but I do think you need a little independence.  Along with our joint accounts, D and I have our own personal checking and savings accounts. D does not need to know how much I spend on my nails, eyelashes, hair and online shopping.  He knows I spend money,  but If he new the combined amount I spend,  I think he would freak.  I also know D loves a good video game or new electronic, but again I would not see the reasoning in spending the money on such things. The solution: we purchase them on our own with our own funds. The end result is we’re individually happy and happy together.  This goes for our own savings accounts too.

My Two Cents

Maintaining a healthy and committed relationship is WORK.  Bring money into it and it will either weaken or strengthen your relationship depending on how each person handles situations. This is why it’s so important to be honest and communicate about your finances. Managing money as a couple is a lot like managing other aspects of your relationship. It revolves around respecting the other person, and trust. If you have a solid foundation and can learn to manage money together, it can become a very rewarding part of your relationship.

Just remember, money management can’t be taken lightly, so it’s important to talk with your partner before making any decisions.

How do you combine your finances? 

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